Grieving the loss of someone special is an everyday battle to stay strong and focused. Especially if you want to win that person back. But the very last thing you want to do is fall victim to a lonely night and ruin your chances of a reconciliation. This article will pull apart why you’re feeling incontrollable panic and go over some important do’s and don’ts for these next few weeks.
Every person in the world has gone through a break up. Either it’s your 3rd grade crush who stops playing with you at recess or it’s your lover of 5 years moving on. Take relief in the fact that you’re not alone. Everyone experiences heartbreak, and more importantly, everyone gets through it.
The biggest thing is that this person was not only your boyfriend or girlfriend, but your best friend, the person you spent most of your time with, shared laughs with and just felt comfortable around. So, it’s natural to feel loss of control and panic because that everyday familiarity has been yanked away from you.
Use this time. Use this precious alone time to regain your independence. Take care of YOU. Sure, it’ll be hard to get those thoughts completely out of your brain, but if you keep yourself busy you better believe they’ll be squashed out of the picture enough to get yourself in order.
Initiate “Operation: Yes”
Try this method on for size… I like to call it the Just Say YES method. It’s actually rather simple – say yes to any and all invitations. It’s imperative to keep busy so you don’t slip up. The “Just Say Yes” Method is initially not the most enjoyable part of this journey. But it gets easier!
Take a look below; here are some other very important “do’s”. Pay attention!
• Exercise. This is the BEST thing you can do. Exercising daily, even if just a little walk, will give you some sort of routine, will brighten up your emotional outlook, and do great things for your health.
• Bond with friends. This does not mean to call your friend and cry about Mr./Mrs. Wonderful. This means to talk with them, ask about their lives, laugh with them or go to movies with them.
• Keep up your other routines. Make sure to watch your hygiene (you’d be surprised). Guys: Keep up with the shaving! We don’t want you to look like a bum. Look your best. It will help you feel your best. Girls: Do your hair up all fancy-like! Wear a new outfit! It’s imperative to feel good about what you got going on.
• It’s hobby time! Come on, you know there’s something you’ve been meaning to spend more time doing. Photography? Golf? Writing? Hop to it!
• Do something for others. You’ll be tempted to wallow during these first few weeks. The absolute best thing you can do to get yourself off the brain is to get others on the brain. Even if it’s cleaning out the probably packed closet of yours and taking the extras down to a shelter.